Non-Traditionals Relationships

There is a movie that shows how some parents are and the diffrent relationships they have with there parents.Called little black girl lost. The mother in the movie didn't allow her daughter to call her mommy,but by her 1st name.In the movie you can tell that she was really hurt.The mother was the type who would put man over her child because one day the mother boyfriend rapped the girl and when she told her she diden't beleive what she was saying which would make a little girl go crazy. it's like she don't have a mother at all. First she cant call her mother mommy and now she got her innesence tookin away and her own mother woulden't listen. This movie just shows how the parents have a major roll in this non-traditional relationships. after this happened to her it's like she had no reason for careing about her self she started smoking crack and prostatuding her self.At the end of everything she end up killing her mother boyfriend and her went to jail. All because her own mother dident listen.

A Teenager Point Of View

I finally got a teenagers point of view on birth control. I asked 3 teenagers one which has a child and one that has been in a relationship with there boyfriend fro 5 years and the last one which has no child of boyfriend just friends.

The first teenager I interviewed her name is Alisha she is 20 she has a baby. A baby girl name Ja'Niyah she so pretty she is 4. Alisha told me she was never "told or introduce in to birth control when she was younger." she say " she don't regret having Ja'Niyah" but she would of been more happier if she was on birth control, because she didn't get a chance to party, travel of explore the world she sill can but it would be very expensive. She told me " wait to think about having a baby". She said "it is very expensive to have a baby". when she want she cant get she have to buy her baby girl. When she want them new J's she can't get them she got to buy Ja'Niyah them. But i do respect her though how well she take care of Ja'Niyah . She's not the type of parent that let her daughter go without. Some parents out here will buy there self's the latest fashion and let there children got without.

The second teenagers i interviewed her name is Janay she been in a relationship for 5 years with a guy name Anthony . I asked Janay how has birth control impact her life. She told me she loves the fact that she knew about birth control. she said " her and her boyfriend has been in so many situation where she could of ended up pregnant from the condom breaking. " But she was very lucky that the didn't get pregnant the birth control protected her. she then said to me " her and Anthony isn't ready for children they like the life they are living rite now they can go out and explore the world they can party and not have to worry about having to find a baby sitter. She did say that "her and Anthony would like to have a baby in the future but just not rite now" But Janay do like the fact that she is taking birth control.

Now the last in final teenager I interviewed her name was Aaliyiah she doesn't have a boyfriend. She just have friends. But she does take birth control . So i started to ask her are you happy that your parents introduce you in to birth control? She said to me ''I am the one that told my parents i want to be on birth control" i asked her how did your parents feel about you wanting to be on birth control? She said " they didn't like it at first but then they started to respect it because they knew i was growing up and i need to be protected some other way then condoms" ''because condoms do break sometimes plus they are not a 100% anymore". Aaliyiah said to me that she "would of had a baby by now because condoms broke on her a couple time"

From interviewing these teenagers it kind of seem like they have the same point of view just like my family members the only difference is that they didn't mention anything about the disease ratio. Would rise in the younger generation for the young and dumb one's that think they aren't pose to rap it up just because they are take birth control.

Johnson, Alisha. "Personal Interview." 05/16/2008 21 May 2008
Dade, Janay. "Personal Interview." 05/16/2008 21 May 2008
Marie, Aaliyah. "Personal Interview." 05/16/2008 21 May 2008

Why is it hard to SAY Goodbye??

"It's hard to Say Goodbye"

Well now I'm on my serious most important question and that is to all victims "Why is it so hard to just up and leave?" is it because of love or is just because you seem to feel stuck in the relationship and can't leave? I personally don't know and I would surely like to know. Well my theory on this is that women fell to realize that you don't have to be in that predicament and that honestly you can do good by yourself. Sometimes you don't really need a man especially whose beating you and verbally saying mean things about you. That I feel no woman should deserve that type of person. We as woman should be treated like Nubian queens and not like animals or some type of rag doll. We should be appreciated because we give birth to humans to keep the population alive, now I'm not saying that we don't need men of course we do!! they help with populating too!!! But any who......We should have someone who is kind, loving, and will respect us in any form or fashion.

"When in a serious relationship and in love with someone, if the relationship falters and you are not receiving the love that you deserve, you will most probably reach a point of wanting to end the relationship. There are two ways of saying “goodbye”, a real one and a false one. It is imperative to understand both “goodbyes”, separating the two and decide which one inevitably is the correct one to choose. Unfortunately, a majority of people will incorrectly choose the “false” goodbye. This can lead to emotional distress, depression, frustration and prolong the helpless feelings of a broken heart. A false goodbye will cause an unhealthy relationship to drag on needlessly. Let us take a look at the vast difference of false goodbyes and real ones. It is then that you may see that taking the road of a real goodbye can save you so much additional pain." written by Alisa Chagnon

I truly agree with what Alisa, there is two ways of saying goodbye. For example when breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend you say " I think its time we say our goodbyes" I can now say I relate in this case(not in the abusive part) I was in a relationship with someone and I felt as though things weren't working out with each other and my response to saying good bye was "its over, i wanna say goodbye to you" but unfortunately My response was false indeed because I felt like between me and my partner it wasn't over. I mean we still have feelings for each other but I in reality we never made it official in saying the real "Goodbye" to each other. So yes I have been one of those people who have said my goodbye the wrong way and I'm pretty sure everyone else has done the same too. The point that I'm getting to is that the victim of the relationship feels as though that if he/she leaves their abuser will either try to kill them or do something to harm them. Basically threaten them into staying, which of course the victim will automactically stay with them and not want them to become harm. Mostly likely the abuser would probably say "if you know whats best for you then you would stay." When saying that the victim has no choice in but to stay because they feel very threatened and want to keep themselves alive.

I had to get a second opinion

I had to get a second opinion on my question i asked my grandmother, mom, and my uncle.

I asked my grandmother do she think children these days should be introduce to birth control at the age of 13 she agreed with me she said "yes" due to the fact that there are so many pregnancy's in the year of 2008. She told me that" she have seen so many young teenagers on the bus on her way to work" she said " it ridiculous".
Now my mother had a different opinion on it she think that birth control should be introduce once the child receive there period because some children like me get there period at the age of 11. Then start freaking at the age of 14. I didn't though. But then I said to her do she think that would increase the HIV and disease ratio. she then said " maybe" because if a child is told the correct ting about it when hey do start having sex they will still know to rap it up. She said "no matter what the case a female should always use a condom unless they are ready to have children".

Now my uncle on the other hand felt like my mother but also had a different opinion on it. He thinks that "females should have sex before marriage" but he do think it is ok for them to introduce it to them once they receive there period. I then asked him if i was his daughter would he had introduce birth control to me at the age 11. He said "no" then i went on and said to him "you just contradicted your word. " He then said " No i didn't" he said " I said its ok for it to be introduce to females at 13" but then he said "if you where my daughter me and u wold have a open relationship were we could talk about anything" I said "but what if i am scared to come talk to you" he said " that's normal mostly all daughters are scared to come to there father and talk" so i raped it up and said " so you think its ok for birth control to b introduce to females at the age of 13 ." he said "yes if they don't have a open relationship with here parents" so his answer kind of changed once i gave him examples.

But my family agree with me for most of the apart. But then you have to ask your self do you think the teens a start thinking its ok to have sex since they are on birth control and know they have a low risk in getting pregnant? Do you think are disease ratio a rise? There are still so many questions behind this little question that i have. I am now going to ask children around my neighborhood on these 2 questions and see what kind of answers i get.

Purdue, Inell. "Personal Interview." 05/14/2008 21 May 2008
Purdue, Gary. "Personal Interview." 05/14/2008 21 May 2008
Saxon, Inell. "Personal Interview." 05/14/2008 21 May 2008

Non-Traditionals Relationships,Some affects of the Child

In situations like these they can be very seriouse. I have watched movies and read magazines about the way some people grew up and there mother and father was not always around,or never did the things that mothers and fathers should do with there child.This is 1 of the reasons why young teens are locked up or even died because they go out looking for attention on the street because they don't get it at home.For example my little cusine tyrone is 15 years old his parents where not in his life like they should have been.He moved with his grandmother looking for that love his parents never gave him and comes to find out his grandmother is on drugs. Now he is a young boy he wants the finer things in life, he wants to have the new j's that come out,he wants what his friend have.But he cant get it because his grandmother is taking all his money ana smoking it up.So who do you think he turns to at the age of 15, The street he start smoking weed and drinking. He even start robbing people when he shouldn't have to because he has a income. Now his grand mother say she can't handle him anymore and she sent him away to be locked up.But she never thought about what she can do to change his ways.This can affects alot of children.I really don't think that her sending him aways will help him. Whats going to happen is when he turns 18 and get out he is going to feel as if he have no one to run to. He's going to look at his grandmother differnt and he is still going to do the things he been doing because its the only way he no how to survive.

Other Woman involved in abusive relationships such as celebrities

Moving on to the next part of my research has been more and more interesting as I investigate. I recently found out the in the United States more than 5.3 million people have been involved in physical verbal and sexual abuse. Its sad how so many Americans each day go through something so terrible like this. Its a bit disturbing if you ask me.
Not only have normal living people like you and I face these abuses, celebrities too have dealt with the same issue. Celebrities who were part of this problem were singer Christina Aguilera, who she told US Weekly about she and her mother's abuse with her father. Interviewed by US Weekly the reporter says "she still suffers panic attacks as a result of the abuse. She sings about her experiences in the song, “OK,” which is on her most recent album. She sings, “Bruises fade, father, but the pain remains the same/And I still remember how you kept me so afraid.” I have heard of the victims say that they still have panic attacks, which in cases I can relate and say that if something bad or something you have been through you do have panic attacks from those past incidents. That's just like saying if you were in the Vietnam war, people who are now retired and are older (elderly) have panic attacks of when they were in the war. Same thing here. Just a different situation.

Another celebrities who was involved an abusive relationship was no other than Tina Turner. Now everyone knows about the movie "What's Love Got To Do With It" She basically put a movie out about her career as a singer and behind the scenes of her relationship with her ex-husband Ike Turner who is now deceased. Although she went through a horrible struggle somehow some way she became a strong woman by removing herself from the situation. Since then she has learned from the experince and absolutely knows the outcome of it. She has also written books about her relationship and his involved with drugs and financial which led him to abuse her. I feel that reading or watching her movie will help those understand the concept of what is going in theri lives and in hers.

Intersting New Information

I was reading a article which stated that Vice Persident Cheney's daughter is homosexual. His daughter said that her being a lesbian was her "being who she was, being who she was born as" (personal communication, October 14, 2004). Many people belive that it is infact the way some people are born, But Julie Harren thinks different. She belives that the reason people base homosexuality soley on genetic is because most people have not been informed about the developmental contributors to homosexuality. My research has never revealed that people are born gay. In fact, the research indicates that there are many factors, including possible biological and environmental factors, which contribute to a homosexual orientation (LeVay, 1996; Whitehead & Whitehead, 1999). In saying this it is also believed that homosexual felling is not a conscious choice. Although neither of the common explanations for homosexuality is 100% the biological position is the one that is given by the gay community and secular society. This explanation though incomplete and misleading, is extremely widespread. In the media and popular culture it seems to be assumed and implied that homosexuals are simply born that way. Flawed research studies are often cited as evidence for the biological basis of homosexuality.

Harren, Julie. "NARTH National Association for Research & Theropy of Homosexuality." Educating the Public on the Causes of Homosexuality 08.02.2008 01.05.2008 .